Connection

Sometimes you forget how difficult it is to simply spend time with your own family. Not that they are difficult to be around, but it's impressive how you can live so close to them and only see them in passing. Everyone has their separate agenda and their own lives that keep them occupied. How can I show them I love them if I hardly hang out with them?

The other day I was reading this "deparate marriage" book that was lying around our house. Sounds strange for a single woman to be reading, but I like to be knowledgable about relational issues and I thought it might have some helpful tips. The author mentioned that many people complain that their need for love is not being met--and the author points out that these people are looking to recieve love instead of give it. When I read that, I realized that sometimes I deal with that in my own life. I am disappointed when I don't recieve love from my family---but how am I giving it?

I think I need to change my focus. It's not about me getting the love and wholeness I need from my family, rather, it's me getting the love I need from God, and seeking out ways to give love to my family. I know one of my love languages is quality time, so I've been seeking after quality time to feel loved from my family instead of seeking out their love languages. God has really put it on my heart to improve on ways to express love each of my family members individually.

Since I've been home, I've already seen improvements in my relationships with my family. I believe that before this semester is over, my family is going to be closer that we've ever been before. We are going to know how to love eachother well, relate, and communicate effectively. I'm excited for what God is doing in my family life. So fun!